6 Ways To Boost Your Self-Esteem

“The strongest single factor in prosperity consciousness is self-esteem: believing you can do it, believing you deserve it, believing you will get it” Jerry Gillies – Writer

Self-Esteem has a huge impact in our lives. What you think about yourself and how comfortable you are with yourself determines how high or low is your self-esteem. Take a moment for a reflexion.  Ask to yourself if you deserve the best and if you feel you are important. If you have answered ‘YES’- great, but do your thoughts, body language and actions say the same?

Don’t be afraid to have a high self-esteem thinking that you will turn into an insolent bossy arrogant person. Having a high self-esteem will make you feel good about yourself and others. People with high self-esteem have very high respect for others. They know we are here exchanging knowledge and experiences.

1. Accept Compliments

Don’t say it is nothing. Enjoy the compliment and say thank you. If someone is praising you it is because you deserve it. Be proud of you.

2. Pay Attention To Your Self-Talk

Psychologists reckon that we talk to ourselves around 60 thousand times a day. Self-talk is our internal dialogue, powerful messages that we transmit to our brains. It can be either invaluable or painfully destructive to our self-esteem. Stop right now the negative self-talk when your interior voice says “I can’t do this” or “I am not good enough”. Be vigilant and substitute them immediately to positive self-talk.

3. Avoid Negative People

Run away from people who are constantly criticising you. They will make you feel bad. Hang around with people who make you feel good about yourself. Optimistic and positive must be your choice for friends from now on.

4. Don’t Blame People or Events

Take responsibilities for your outcomes. You are in change of your life; you are the one who can make the difference. We reap what we sow!

5. Focus On The Present

Now is the only time we are in charge and we can make all the changes we want. The past is gone there is nothing you can do about it. The future is not here yet.

6. Stand Up Straight And Tall

Our body language affects immensely our self-esteem. If we stand up straight, stomach in, chest out, head up. We will certainly feel more confident.

“No one can make you feel inferior without your permission.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

2 Vital Qualities For Success And We all Have Them

The energy of your Thought and Will Power are without doubt essential tools to success and all of us have both of them or at least the potential to develop them.

I am a great believer that we can develop qualities the same way we can develop muscles. It is all about the energy and the will power to get there. Have a plan, stick to it and find a way. The biggest obstacle we can find preventing us to achieve our dreams is ‘guess who’? Us… Weird? Yes, very much so. But I will tell you what happens in most people’s life and I am sure you will agree with me how weird it can be.

How many people do you know that follow the same routine over and over again, complain all the time but don’t do a thing to change? I call them ‘humanbots’. The ‘humanbots are especially famous for their same long New Year’s resolution list each year. So now tell me what is the biggest obstacle?

We are too special to act as robots. Little changes of habits will help a lot. Changing a very small fraction in our route can change completely our destination. Use your thoughts – your most precious and powerful source of energy – and your will power to make these changes. You must be thinking how the heck am I going to do that?

Train your mind, exercise your thoughts and make them work for you. When we do something over and over again it goes to our subconscious and then we can just work on automatic pilot. I am going to give a classic example so you can understand what I am talking about. When we drive or walk to a certain place everyday, if for some reason we need to go somewhere else we often end up taking the same route without realising it. The reason is our subconscious is doing the work for us. We are in the auto pilot mode.

Start with very little changes, keep in mind that if you can hold just one little change for a while it can make all the difference in your life. The change you decide to make will soon be part of your subconscious and that means you will soon be doing it in your auto pilot mode.  Then you can move on to bigger changes. Think about what you would like to change in your life, keep a notebook make a list if you like. Write in your notebook what your perfect life would be like.

Now use that time you have when you are having your shower or trying to sleep or driving to work to build in your mind the life you want to live with as much details as possible. Soon your subconscious will take it as truth and will find a way to make it happen, the same way it made you drive or walk to your usual destination.

Action is a very precious weapon that you have at your disposal to make things happen. Now you have to think about changes or new behaviours which must be implemented to get where you want to be. Go back to your notebook and write what you are going to change immediately to start your life change. It can be something very simple like: ‘I am not going to judge or criticise anyone for 3 hours a day’ or ‘instead of eating 2 donuts I am going to eat just one…’ It can be anything as long as you connect it with your dream life.

You are the only one entitled to control your life. If you are giving someone or something this irrevocable right, race to take it back and never let it go again. 

Keep Resentment Out Of Your Life

“To cherish secrets and hold back emotion is a psychic misdemeanour for which nature finally revisits with sickness.” Carl Jung –Psychoanalytic